Always very difficult. It seems that more and more couples have some kind of family politics. The main thing to remember is that it is your day and that the other guests will be aware that your parents are not together so they will accept that they will be separated for the day. If either of them do start to create a problem, the bestman should step in and have a quick word to remind them why they are there. I am used to this situation and have had to do this on a few occasions but weddings are very emotional times and as long as you make sure that they both feel important then most people put differences aside.

Your wedding day is about you and your fiance and they should respect this and I'm sure they will. If they don't get on normally, they will put this to one side for your sake. For one day, to have both your parents there when it really matters, is a sacrifice I'm sure they can make for you. If you tell them both how much you want them to be there but that you expect them to put their differences to one side, I'm sure they will understand. If either one of them feels they can't then it would then be a decision you and your fiance would have to make as to whether or not you still invite them. They could be seated at different tables and host one each. They needn't sit together, if this avoids any awkwardness. Good luck Siobhan