i apologise for the delay in replying .. i hope im not too late! ALl i can suggest is that you take the firm hand on this situation. i know that she is your friend but it sounds like she needs telling. YOU are the bride and this is your special day so all the lead up to it and the excitement of the dress appointments and the florists should be enjoyed not dreaded. Take the upper hand and be strong if she is your friend then she will understand one day when she is in the same position. I hope this helps.