Hi Helen, I completely understand; the easy way out of talking about it is tell them - all is in hand and it is going to be a surprise so you don't want to talk about but the plan is going very well and they will see it next spring. Then all they will do is talk amoungst themselves - oh I wonder what Helen is having? etc etc GOOD LUCK HELEN MRS S

It is going to be very difficult to avoid the topic of your wedding for the next 8 months so it is best to be honest with your family. Explain that you dont mean to be rude but you have had enough of wedding talk! If they do ask, tell them that everything is in hand and that you want to keep your plans private so it will be a surprise on the day for all the guests. Good Luck. Suzie

Hi I think you need to be firm but kind from the beginning now. Your family are very excited about your special day and you although may welcome their ideas, thank them for their ideas and mention that you will discuss these with your partner before you make any final decision. Then everyone knows where they stnad you are not pushing your family out nor are you allowing them to force you to make a decision there and then. With regards to your wedding being the main topic of conversation its quite difficult for your family not to get excited, if you let them know that your partner and yourself are still discussing your thoughts and putting it down on paper. Once you have both finalised your idea of the wedding there will be more to discuss but it still in the very early planning stages. It gives your family no room to ask any further questions and leaves you free to decide when you wish to discuss the wedding with them. I hope your fiancee and yourself have a great wedding!

Hello Helen, As with alot of wedding that we do we find taht the families try to get involved all of the time, trying to help but the majority of the time it is a hinderance. Please rememebr that this is YOUR special day and all decisions should be down to you and your partner. take in the suggestions, discuss them with each other then once a decision is made then take a firm hand and stand up with your answers. You can make this day exactly how you dreamed but it is up to you both. Good luck and i hope this helps.