Dear Nicki, You poor girl, it seems as though you are trying really hard to involve and make others happy who aren't enthusiastic. With refernce to you 15 year old cousin, unfortunately trying to get more than a grunt out of some 15 year olds is like trying to get blood out of a stone. If you really want her to get involved you could arrange with her a truely girly shopping day out just you and her and look at bridesmaids dresses and have a little fun (break the ice buy both trying on some really awful dresses!), go for lunch somewhere she wouldn't normally go and treat her like an adult girlfriend, she might then come out of her shell a little bit more. As for your H2B's sister I think you need to take a strict but friendly approach with her. You could arrange a meeting with her and take with you a detailed plan of what needs to be done and a time plan of when it needs to be completed, ask her if she is up for the job and can she stick to the time plan. Give her a final opportunity to get the job done and if it isn't completed by the date you gave her just take over and you and your mates organise the best darn hen weekend you could have. It is your wedding day and your hen weekend don't let others dictate what you should be doing. You are not being a Bridzilla. You have the day you want. Good Luck Dawn