This is a tricky situation and totally unnecessary, at my wedding I had the same problem but with my sister, luckily she agreed to come without the 'new' boyfriend but it was not a nice situation to be in, so I can empathise with you. I really feel in this instance the decision has to be made by your fiancee, it is his brother and best man so obviously will be the one most affected. I suspect you will have no choice but to invite him and his 'guest' should he have one, insist however that he can't just invite a 'mate' for company it must be someone he is close to. Maybe say to your future brother in law that you are upset he has put you in the situation but you really want him at the wedding so will agree to his 'demand' make sure he knows you are not happy. You will then have to speak to your friends and explain the situation, make sure they know you were effectively blackmailed and had no choice but are unahppy about the situation. Hope this helps Bernadette Dream Occasions

What a tricky situation your fiances brother has left you in! Whilst I agree that he is being selfish in putting these demands on you both, on this occaision and to keep the peace, I feel that you should let him have his way. He is your fiances brother and also the bestman and the trouble that this could cause with his family is probably not worth it. If you are worried that your friends may feel put out because they are not able to bring their boyfriends, explain to them that this a is special circumstance and only agreed on because he is family and you need to keep the peace! Good Luck with your plans.

I think the best man - your groom's brother just doesn't want to be on his own. He probably feels it will be all couples and he would like a playmate too. I understand that you have invited everyone you want to and your list is full; but maybe there is a comprimise - he could bring a guest along in the evening. This way all of his duties will be finished and then he can have his playmate for the evening reception. I don't think he is being malicious he just wants to have someone by his side too. Good Luck MRS S